‘Never show weakness’, the saying goes, but sometimes you are weak and struggling. ‘Stay strong’, the saying also goes, but sometimes you are just not strong. We live in a world that does not reward weakness or victimhood. Oh yes, there is a temporary sympathy and support but it never lasts, in the long run the giver(s) of such support ask for a payback. The payback is a chip at your value, your worth. If you have been abused, damaged and dented you can not be worth that much. You are like a write off insurance car. You have been involved in an accident that is not your fault, who cares? Your insurance premium still goes up next time. And the car, the subject of the accident/abuse, what becomes of it? The greater the abuse/accident, the greater the devaluation. The car becomes the purchase of salvager . We find that most car owners involved in accident will do anything to hide evidence of the accident, not because they are guilty or caused the accident but because of the ensuing devaluation.
Misery sure enjoys company, but what huge price we pay for showing our wounds and accepting that company! Why do victims of domestic abuse find themselves repeatedly in similar relationships? They become like blood to Vultures, Hawks etc. Predator are always on the prey and what better prey than a previously abused or damaged person, easy to prey, plunder and pillage. Just to be clear, I will never scorn or deride the experience of abused people …. the damage cause, physically and psychologically is immense. However we live in a sometime cold and callous world where only the strong is rewarded and enthralled.
Hide your wounds, do not publicise it, heal in private, put balm in the secret of your room, come out in strength as the victim never wins. ‘It is hard’, you tell me, of course it is very hard. The journey of being a human being can be a hard one atimes. Do not be an accident damaged vehicle, a total loss, a write-off, people only pick them up on the cheap! Dust yourself up, you’ve got this, you can do it!
Beautiful Ivory 