The Innocence of a Relationship

…. every relationship has a period of innocence, a time when all is green, when there is no pre-emptive thoughts, when the goodwill is high, when it is untouched by drama. This relates to all kind of relationships, family, friends, colleagues, business partners, romantic relationships etc. The hymen of the relationship has not been tampered with it. It’s still in its virgin state. There is something kind and gentle and delicate about the relationship.

And then some idiot, some ‘brute force’ goes in break the hymen of the relationship, finds the password and breaks in, disvirgin it by some stupid behaviour, some inappropriate words, some ill thought actions, some self centred manoeuvre, some childish tantrum, uncalled for outburst, some devilish manipulative behaviour. After some time the dust settles, the whirlwind is over, the hurricane has calmed. The sexual act is over.

And then a few days after or a few weeks, months, years or whatever the time span is, we come over and check in to the relationship and expect the hymen to be intact, unbroken, we expect the same level of security. That is impossible! The Innocence of the relationship has been destroyed, can never be regained. Of course the relationship can be continued if sufficient effort is made to make amends and forgiveness abounds, but once disvirgined, never to be as before, it is the way of nature. Some nakedness must never be seen, otherwise they can’t be unseen! Some part of a relationship must never be touched, otherwise the relationship can never be restored to its previous position.

Let us all be careful how we treat people and our relationships, we do not have infinite opportunities to make and get things right. Some treasure once damaged will never regain its previous shape.

In the same manner we preserve and protect the innocence of our young ones, both boys and girls, lets us work hard to protect the innocence of those relationships we truly care about. Let’s know some things are sacred, never to be trifled with.

Forgiveness abounds, but restoration is of the Lord. He alone can perform the miracle of restoring the innocence of a relationship.

Be careful!