Our Lover Will Come

… the wait can be difficult and we grow weary, we wonder, will he ever come? At another level we wonder if there ever is a lover for us, not to talk about him coming or not. This is when the strangeness commences, when we start dancing to strange music and to show our privacy to the whole world. This is when we take on the ways of the foreigner for we no longer believe we have a lover or that he would come. We discard our uniqueness and put on the affairs and manners that will appeal to a strange lover, for we must be loved! But how can a strange lover love us when he does not know us? No one can truly love us as long as we continue to masquerade in our disguise, for we are not known. We all continue in the deceitful love affair for lack of patience, there is no transparency, no vulnerability, we lose heart waiting, believing that our’s will never come to us and we must now live with the unappealing unequal yoking we have created.

There is only one way to stand solidly on our own sacred ground, our own uniqueness without compromising the integrity of who we truly are, of our very being. That is when we believe that our lover will come. The one that loves us as we are will come, the one that accepts our being as we are made, that sees pass our flaws, focusing on our beauty, our uniqueness will come. But it takes courage, a whole lot of courage to wait the wait. It takes faith to believe that he that will come, will come and not tarry. It takes resolute and a stubborn steadfastness to stand solid when lovers after lovers arrives, picks up their bride and we are about the only one left on the shelf. It takes determination, purposefulness, awareness, consciousness and awakeness not to compromise our stand, not to shift a bit to the right or to the left. Not to take or attach a little bit of this or that to enhance our appeal.

It is hard to be rejected, it is hard to be passed over, it is difficult to accept being overlooked and ignored. It is not easy when we are not acknowledged or considered. It is just easier in those circumstances to compromise who we are and when our lover arrives he can’t find us or recognise us because we are busy masquerading in clothes that do not belong to us. We have put on the scent of another animal and nobody knows who we are.

We must find the strength to resit the temptation to be anything other than who we are created to be, we must find the strength to take our stand, we must believe to the saving of our souls knowing that it is a matter of time and he that will come will come and not tarry, our lover will come. Fear is the reason why we stay or go with a wrong lover, fear of being left alone, of never making it to our true lover, of him never turning up. We all know when we are hooked up with the wrong lover but we stay for we fear that none else will come.

Someone ask, who or what do you mean by ‘lover’? Are you talking about Jesus Christ, a romantic partner, husband etc? No, our lover do not necessarily come with any of those labels, they are the people that get us, that accept us, that see us through and through, that do not pre judge us, that do not pretend to love us, are not with us to score some points or for signalling effect. These are our soul mates, our tribe people, our very own, our heart is at rest and at peace with them, we don’t have to act up or down, we can just be and we are accepted in the beauty of our being. These people can come in any form or guise, our paths can cross anywhere or at any time, they are not perfect either, but a discerning soul knows when he is with his lover, there is a peace and connection that can not be explained or traded.

Stay true, stay you! Keep doing life the best you know to do, and there he comes!