… show me an initiator and you have he that will rule the world! Whoever came up with ‘good things come to those that wait’ needs to have his head checked. Even babies know better, they come out of the womb yelling their heads off for what they want, be it food, comfort, cuddle or whatever, but they yell, they initiate. The one that waits, still gets something but it is not always ‘good’ sometimes it could be, but usually it is leftovers, deadweights, unwanted stuff, pity induced stuff, what nobody else wants or just nothing, simply nothing! You want something? You take the steps to get it, whatever it maybe. Even God, the same God that said ‘wait’ also said ‘ask’. There is the wait after things have been initiated, after the asking and there is just the wait, the ‘stupid wait’, permit me to say. The mind boggling waiting, the wait that accomplishes nothing!
A lot of our lack stems simply from the fact that we either are unaware that we should initiate or are simply unwilling to initiate. We don’t ask , we’ve been conditioned to just sit there and believe it will come to us. I don’t think it works like that at all. First and foremost, we need to have a clear understanding of who we are and what we need in every areas of our life, be it love, friendship, wealth, health, marriage, spiritual growth, peace, space, fitness, mental agility etc and then we research how to get these things and put a strategy into place. We can’t be coy about life, well I guess we can be, it’s each person’s choice but then there is price to pay for such coyness. Life is for the takers, the ones that say ‘I will not let you go unless you bless me’ . The ones that are not afraid to make the first call and the second and the third and as many calls as are required. And even when afraid, they still call, they still initiate, they still ask the questions, they still yell because that is the way to get what you want, you still have to ask.
In some culture or settings such asking is frowned upon, initiating is scorned, you are expected to stay right in your lane, toe the line, take what you are given and do not ask for more or something else. That is all well and good for any one that wants to live a mediocre life. Greatness initiates, it asks, it demands, sets the tone.
It is interesting in relationship, people atimes end up with lousy partners and they are looking for someone to blame. When in all truthfulness the fault lies entirely at their feet. To start with, they never prospect any one, they sat there and ‘waited’ for whoever came. Limiting their selections to the ones that bothered to show up. How different will the story be if they actually invested themselves in the selection process? Actively sourcing, tastefully of course, but engaging in the process. The worse baloney I have heard goes like ‘… but women are not suppose to…’ you can change ‘women’ to men, children, blacks, whites, or whatever title or label fits your particular situation. Babies haven’t heard the lie, so they yell, our innate default is to yell, to initiate, but life comes along and change our settings and tell us to wait and shut up, we have picked up all kind of ‘life bug’ and like a bug ridden computer we malfunction, we are not at peak performance, we produce incorrect and unexpected result. Maybe it is time we get back to ‘factory settings’, you know, the ‘master reset’ to the original settings where we initiate.
‘Waiter’ get tips and tips are at the discretion of the diners. Some resturants have wisen up and done away with all these discretion business, they add the 10% or 15% to the bill. They want to be taken seriously. In the same vein, to be taken seriously in life, we have to initiate the conversation. We don’t wait for someone else to get it started. Some people argue, ‘why do I have to do all the work? ‘, ‘why do I have to make the first call?, why can’t he call?’ Why can’t he come first? Why do I have to make the first approach?’ Well, if for no other reason, it gives some control, at least you get to decide when, how, what, why etc. What about if we get shoot down? That is inevitable, the initiator will get shoot down from time to time? There will be embracing moments, but by and large they will be few and far between.
The power belongs to the initiator, just do it, ask, yell!
Beautiful Ivory 