… it take sensitivity, it takes awareness, it takes perception, it takes razor sharp alertness, consciousness, mindfulness to know when the tide changes. Around us every day, every minute, every second the tide is changing and we are not aware, we think it is business as usual, no it is not! The business has actually moved out of the locality!!!
Our parents where once strong, independent, dominant figures, caring for us, telling us what to do, how to do it. The power balance was stacked in their favour. They were the giver in so many ways and we the receiver. But at a time the tide changes, we become stronger, they become weaker, we become independent they become dependent, they need care we become the care giver, sometimes this change is so quick, so fast, it takes us by surprise and the only way to cope is by living in denial, by insisting on relating with the old parameters that no longer holds.
How many times have we seen this with lovers, the man that was once pursuing fervently and ferociously wakes up one morning and his heart is no longer piting pattering all over the place, his passion has disappeared, his behaviour changes, he is no longer available physically or emotionally, when he is there, he is not, the once object of his affection is confused and disoriented and insists on relating to him in the old era that no longer is. The tide has changed and she does not know or does not want to accept.
Sometimes the change is positive, our neighbour that was once a racist has now woken up from the error of her ways yet we dare not drop our guards, we don’t feel safe or at ease, yet there is no longer any risk of the noose going round our neck. Paul is now born again, we wouldn’t be murdered, yet we know not. We can’t see the change in the tide.
Our once clever and stable child is dropping the ball, yet we are busy boasting all over the place about having the best child in the class. Kanye is born again, Kim is tagging along yet we insist they are Devil worshipper. We are rich now, have the money to pay our ways, yet we persist in a beggarly manner holding tightly to our poverty mentality. We have been offered independence yet we hold on tightly to the apron string of our coloniser as if our very existence depends on their benevolence.
We have lost the plot, new younger kids are running the block, yet we hold tight to the no longer existent power. The tide has changed and we no longer know who we are. We were once young and in demand, now we are not as young or as in demand, yet we can’t accept ot take it. Our knight in shinning armour is no longer a hero, he sure does not have any suit any more, our children are now the ones in charge, the child is no longer fearful, timid and unable, he is the Commander, running the show.
‘Big tummy’ in school has lost the bulge, he is toned and taut with 8 packs, he is now Mr Universal, you don’t go around taunting him and calling him stupid school yard names, he is no longer that boy, the tide has changed.
Once the tide has changed, it really has changed, but why are we so unconscious, so unaware, so deadened, so insensitive, so blind, why? Why didn’t we see it, why didn’t we hear it, why didn’t we perceive? Because we are far from it, sometimes we ate near it, we actually in it, but yet we are far, very far, we are no where close, yet we are in it.
How do we become more conscious, more aware, more senstive? We must stop! Observe, listen, listen closely, live consciously, rouse ourselves from sleep, clear our minds. One of the biggest hindrance to perception is offense. Offense is one of the biggest blocker. It is a weight of it’s own that blinds the eye, blocks the ear. When we walk in offense we can’t see, we just can’t see. Peace must reign in the heart of the seer. You can’t be an angry person and have a clear picture of situation. Anger beyond a level distorts, and distorts badly.
That we may know when the tide changes, that we just know and act accordingly!
Beautiful Ivory 