… we are elegant, I am elegant and you are elegant! But the question is how do I make myself believe it without feeling the need to change or adjust something about me, myself to achieve that status? I can not be more elegant, no amount of wealth can make me more elegant, no education, no physical fitness regime can do it either, my elegance is in built, by design, I don’t have to be more or less of anything to be elegant. I don’t have to loose weight or add weight, I don’t have to tone up, I don’t have to change my wardrobe. All of these things are good and helpful in our social interactions and for our physical wellbeing, but our true essence is sufficient and good enough. A person can be fit, wealthy, educated, well dressed and well groomed and still not feel elegant. Another person might not have half as much but feel incredibly elegant.
Elegance is intrinsic, it is simple, it is beauty, it is original, it is by design, it is intricate, it is deeper than the societal established norm of physical acceptability, it is not eroded or corroded by age, basically it is ageless, it is not enhanced by anything we do, because it is complete in its form. I am talking about true elegance. It is not black, white, brown or any colour, it is colourless, yet it exist in all the colours. It is not fat, it is not slim, it is all sizes. It is not tall or short, it belongs to all length and height. It is not the exclusive right or belongings of a certain group of people or family, which is what the world will make us believe by it’s very skewed, biased and truncated definition. It is not limited to a geographic location. It does not abound with the excessive accumulations of wealth or the sparse scattering of it, it is here, there and everywhere. It is our very being. We are not becoming, we are, our understanding and manifestation is however becoming.
But how do I get myself to embrace my elegance, to believe in it and to live it? How do I shut my ears to the voice, demands and rejection of the world and strut my stuff in the arena of my exquisiteness? How do I wake up and truly understand the majestic of my being? Not just understand but to be awed by the person, not in an arrogant ‘I am better than another ‘ manner but in a true comprehension of each and every being. Not a comprehension that sees the totality of what is possible but an understanding of the limitless potentials, and also the appreciation and apprehension as it is. The elegance that does not need to be touched up or airbrushed, the beauty that is beyond skin deep.
Animals are incredibly comfortable in their skin and strut their stuff, irrespective of the form that they come in, as humans sometimes we do not grab this simple acceptance, we have managed over the years to convince ourselves and allow others to convince us that we are not good enough.
A lot of our strive will cease when we understand how awesome we are. Depression, anxiety and a whole load of mental distress will be done away with once we can just grab this simple fact, but how do we do it? How do we unlearn the lies of inadequacy? We must listen to a different source, look in a different mirror, we must pay attention differently, we must align ourselves vertically, our paradigm must change, our definition must be different, our acceptance must be absolute. The dirt must be brushed off the shoulder but that speck does not touch the integrity of the person.
The person is elegant, truly is and may we all walk in the understanding of this fact.
Be you, you are elegant!
Beautiful Ivory 