… to be envied is the man that can operate in the midst of chaos and doze off on a cluttered desk. I don’t do well with clutter or disorder, most people don’t. If I have to, I will make the best of the situation. I wouldn’t call myself an OTT tidy person but reasonably tidy and clean. Some have argue that to go far in life, one has to thrive on chaos, I thrive on order, my brain works better when things are in place. However I can accept that to move the frontier , there has to be disorder that requires putting in order, there has to be chaos that needs straightening out. And the processing of overcoming creates a new and hopefully better order. I can live with that.
I have seen people overwhelmed, in very difficult situations, they need to make a decision, but it is bothering on impossible, they can’t see clearly. They are packed full, absolutely no room to manoeuvre. The windscreen is smeared all over, their eyes are full of dirt, the glasses is equally dirty. Yet they are expected to make decision. It is not possible. Some lever of order need to be created to enable the brain to function. Room must be created, space must be made, range of vision must be possible, the nose can’t be pressed against the wall and then asked to breath, either the wall or the nose has to move, otherwise suffocation will be the end result. We have to move away to see clearly.
Atimes the only way to handle the spilling over in-tray, the overflowing desk, the busting at the rims to-do-list, the pile high dirty dishes and laundry, the million decisions to be made, the over committment is to pack a bag, walk out of the door and leave it all behind, everything! Go to the movie, check in to a hotel, go for a walk, visit a friend, walk the dog etc the brain has to do the work, but it needs the space, it needs to cool down and then it can operate at peak performance. To see clearly, we must get away from it all, every single one of it. A reason why vacation is not a luxury but a necessity for peak performance. A woman in an abusive relationship, physical or emotional or both, is stalled, she can’t see clearly, she can’t start the car, she can hardly reason, the trauma is continuous. She needs external help to break free. Or at list to have a clear understanding of the toxic situation she is in.
To see clearly, she must move away. To see clearly, we must all move away from time to time and get the windows cleaned.
Beautiful Ivory 